I've never really been one for resolutions. Yes, I'm a typical type-A goal-oriented person, but I tend to let the start of the year pass me by and make up goals along the way. A lot of leaders say that yearly resolutions are pointless because you should resolve to do your best regardless of the time of year. Ehh. That's kind of bullshit.
This year, I'm taking the beginning of the year as a time to sit down, reflect, and reset. I'm a routine and habit follower, and so I need something to disrupt the norm in order for me to change. So I sat, pondered, and thought about what I did well this year and what I did not. Aside from tangible action-related goals (I have lots of those too), I wanted to make some personal goals and resolutions for my brain. Changing my mindset and actions are difficult for me because I am a creature of habit, so this year I resolve to...
This is a big one. I'm a Negative Nancy. A Debbie Downer. A Sassafrass McGee. I'm a realist and a pessimist, sarcastic and smart-assy. That's just who I am and how I roll. But that kind of sucks. This year I want to look on the flip side and say more nice things. To people I love and appreciate. About my life and what I'm doing. About others and what they are doing. I am so quick to gossip and blab about who did what and where and why that's wrong. Who cares? Think nice thoughts, say nice things and focus on remaining positive.
Lord knows I like to hold on to things. And bring them up time and time again. Why do we do that? Grudges are so overrated. I remember everything and every word, so this one is tough for me. I'm an eye for an eye type of gal, and that ain't healthy. Let stuff go. Don't worry about what someone said to you in passing two weeks ago. Chances are they were having a bad day too and they didn't mean what they said. Don't read into it too much. Be patient and give people a break. Move forward and forget about past mistakes or misgivings. You have too much going on to keep any of that stuff in your heart.
I get it. There aren't enough hours in the day. Most of my days are a total blur and I've got such a long to-do list that I hardly spend any time actually thinking about what I'm doing. It's so important to reflect on every day, the good and the bad. How are we ever supposed to learn anything from our time if we are too damn busy to stop and think about it? Even if it's just jotting down something great that happened or something memorable from each day, time slips by and we are in control of how we spend it. To quote an overused line from Mr. Bueller, "Life moves pretty fast. If you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it."
Anyone that knows me knows that TV is my one true love. It's my friend and companion, my radio in the morning. BUT. Although I hate to admit it, it's such a time-waster! If I counted up all of the hours that I watched TV a week I'm sure I would cry at all of that wasted time. Now I'm not saying that I'm quitting cold turkey. Oh no. But I would like to limit myself to only watching new shows that I have recorded every week, not mindlessly flipping through channels or re-watching Friends for the millionth time. GO OUT AND DO STUFF. There's so much to see and learn and do, so stop wasting precious hours in front of a box. It'll still be there when you get back, but most amazing opportunities won't.
CELEBRATE! Enjoy the good things in life as celebrations, not burdens. Plan a last minute get-together. Treat yourself when you accomplish something. Tell someone they did a great job and treat them to coffee. Send belated birthday cards, no matter how late. Life is made up of little moments and celebrations, so don't let them pass you by again this year.
And there you have it! I feel very good about these resolutions and I'm hoping I will learn something about myself from them. I just need to remember to go easy on yourself. No one is perfect and we are all just trying to make it through. Every day is a work in progress, so see the good in it and take it as it comes. Ciao for now, and Happy 2016 everyone!